I think my boyfriend has an eating disorder. He doesn't eat for a whole day, and the next day he eats but he overeats and then throws it up. I'm worried and I want to help him.
Not everyone realizes that eating disorders can be a problem for guys as well as girls. It says a lot about you and how caring you are that you have noticed your boyfriend's eating patterns.
Eating disorders can be caused by a combination of physical and psychological problems, as well as things that may be going on in a person's life. Someone with an eating disorder almost always needs professional help to get back on track.
It's not always easy for people with eating disorders to talk about it. Start by telling your boyfriend that you're worried. If he seems open to talking, help him to feel comfortable by listening and letting him get things off his chest. Make it clear that you aren't judging or faulting him in any way. Reassure him that you're there for him no matter what and you want to help him get well.
Sometimes a person isn't ready to acknowledge an eating problem or needs more time. Try not to get angry or frustrated if it feels like your boyfriend is rejecting your help. People with eating disorders often have trouble admitting it — even to themselves.
People with eating disorders can get very sick if they don't get treatment. So you may need to talk to your parents or a school guidance counselor or nurse if your boyfriend doesn't get help.
Offering your support while he deals with these issues is often the best thing to do. There might be lots of ups and downs and it may help to ask your boyfriend if he's willing to get experts who work with guys with eating issues to step in. Whatever happens, you're bound to feel strong emotions of your own. Take care of yourself and reach out for your own support.
Reviewed by: Michelle New, PhD
Date reviewed: September 2011
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